A little of my sky diving pictures!!

When I was in Gold Coast, Aussie, Mar 2012. 

The sad truths being the eldest daughter in an Asian family...

25th May 2014, Sunday

... is that the younger siblings will never ever be able to understand what it takes to be the eldest daughter in the family. Especially if you have a male sibling. The conventional thinking that sons are important in the family exists as parents are still from that era.

Now, I know a lot of younger ones, upon reading the first paragraph will be cursing, what the heck, wtf? But I will be straight up and honest right away. If you think its offensive and inappropriate,  you can choose not to read it. Im not stopping you.

Right from our younger days, as the eldest daughter in the family, we are told to behave in our best manner, do what we are told, set a good example for our siblings to follow. We did that, with no qualms. The younger ones tend to get more defiant during their puberty days, and yet they get away. We want to get defiant, but the answers we get from our parents are do you want to let down your parents? That social norm that eldest have to behave in their best is scary. Please note that I didn't even mention if there are comparisons among the siblings in the family.

And yet we think, probably things will get better when we get older. Sad fact, they don't. Finish our compulsory education, be it diploma or university education, we then graduate and start our working lives so as not to let our parents down. If you have siblings, be it a younger sister or, especially a younger brother in the family, u know perhaps among yourselves you guys may have talked about how to support our parents when they retire. That, is just talk. Don't ever think it will come true, or go your way. Especially if they are still single.

The society is changing. The roles of guys and ladies are changing. MALES nowadays, pa pa zao. Olden saying goes 生儿养老 生女烦恼. Nowadays its the opposite 生女养老 生儿烦恼. 生儿觉得儿子将来会感激你的养育之恩吗? 会在你老的时候照顾你吗? 等久久。 你真的疼错孩子了，趁你现在还年轻，能活动脑子，赶快把你的注意力放在您的女儿吧。一句问题，很简单的。看看你家里四处吧，看看厨房，家里的电视机，微波炉，热水壶，电饭锅，电冰箱，洗衣机，或许饭桌，家里翻新，都是谁处理的。家里有大女儿的话，很难不会猜到就是大女儿给买来的。

我，还没有继续说。我为什么说男人有了女朋友就pa pa zao. Guys nowadays are more prone to the feminine side. Once they are attached, they listen fully to their girlfriends or partners, even going ahead to move into their girlfriend's house and live with his in-laws. 这种例子非常多。Once they move in, 这句话很决 但是 就当作你已经失去一个儿子了吧。别想说您儿子会经常慰问你。别盼望他每个月的家用会给得多，现在的他还得付家翁家婆那边每个月的费用，哪来额外的钱给你? 别指望他会带你们出国散心，额外的开销，休想了吧。他，总是听女方的话，觉得他会听你的吗? 10句的一句吧。 现在养儿子，是养来给别人做儿子的咯，您不知道吗? 男孩一周只回来一次，说什么这样不行，那样不可以，老实说，你又没在家待着，凭什么说啥? 说什么妈妈就老是放在心上。这里也问一句话，儿子爱吃什么妈妈们都知道吧，那女儿们爱吃什么您可否知道吗?

做家中的大女儿，毕业后尽快找工作，分担家中的负担。妈妈说家里的什么什么坏了，需要换新的，需要修一修，女儿听了立马隔天把事情解决好。说结婚的结婚，还没结婚的，继续和父母一块住。结婚的，通常都会好过些，因为毕竟分开了，摩擦少，会拉近家庭关系。目前还没的，就得默默承受和屈服在儒家思想女儿的位置。

长大了，在每个家庭里，肯定会提到钱的话题。现在的家庭都没以前大，家中孩子多数两三个，最多到五个。五个当中，有几个男，几个女呢。父母又是怎么如何看待男和女的呢。别惊讶了， 如今父母都还是很重视男，纵容男，最终财产还是归男。钱多话最大，如今女生賺的还比男生多。父母发生什么事，女儿总是第一时间赶到。但父母确实纵容男，最总临死前遗嘱也归给男。会很无语的。但又如何? 屈服于身为女儿。

做大女儿是很辛苦的。如果能够读到这里的各位弟弟妹妹们，请你们多多照顾你们的爸爸妈妈，帮忙分担大姐的负担吧。

Homemade Thai sticky rice

17th May 2014, Saturday

My mum first attempt of thai sticky rice.

Sleepless nights

24th May 2014, Saturday

Recently I haven't been able to sleep well.

I had made my final decision and I told my manager thay I would not be continuing when my contract with the company ends.

Don't look back after making the decision. Was what my friend said and I agreed with her.

Social gathering meet up

18th May 2014, Sunday

Omg omg omg . I can't believe I did it.

I organised a social gathering for my friends. It was a meet up about 12 friends, from different areas and industries. But mostly was related to korean language.

It all seemed too magical to me. From just vague talks with Chenyan spurred a series of contacting friends up and asking if they would be interested to join the gathering, to crystallising the venue and date.

No doubt I had once again challenged myself. I'm very shy when coming to such things, I wouldn't know who to call. In the end surprisingly the friends I had called up agreed without hesitation. I am really grateful. And everyone turned out to be so sociable with each other. Im really thankful.

Friends who turned up were Daniela (from ecuador, thanks for coming!) Jackie (thankssss so much for coming toooo I didn't know you just went for reservist and just returned on friday night only!) Lis and her friend Linda, Benjamin (luckily it was quite okay for him and he didn't feel left out, he is a very shy person), Chenyan and her three friends, adam and his friend xiu ming.

Frankly speaking I felt stressed the moment I woke up on sunday morning. I am quite worried about how it would turn out, whether my friends can mingle together, etc. All are my good friends and I hope that they can get along well as well.

Plus I was worried if the food will be sufficient and enough. It seems that I was the only one worrying.

The objective is to widen our social circle and make more friends. I hope I did reasonably okay and made my friends comfortable with each other.

Didn't take any photos as I thought maybe its not very polite to take one when its everyone first gathering.

일이 정말...

15th May 2014, Thursday

일.. 왔다 갔다 왔다갔다 하는 느낌이..

정말 싫다. 이렇게 알면서도 진짜 싫어해.

나 한테는 정말 못 참아.

내 성격이 안 어울려. 

이런 왔다갔다 느낌이 정말.. 끝이 없구나.

근데.. 어쩔 수 없이 ... 나 끝까지 가도록 참자.

지기는 진짜 싫다.

After reading Clara's blog. Makes me wanna head to another country now and blog about that country. In holiday mood. And not studying. Yes I am not in a korea fever mood. Hahahahaha. Im long out of it already. Even before I went to korea for language study.

I wanna blog about the holidays I had been!!!

There are just so many ends to be tied up and to be honest I am getting a little sick of it. Because its just not my personality to do that I know it myself. But yet having picked up this job I know I have a lot of stuff in this company to clear up. This us what happens when a company is too big.

Guess. Its really the jobs I am not satisfied with.

Random stuff when I was in Ipoh

Don't take things for granted

9th May 2014, Sunday

Its another friday.

I used to think the pantry at my previous employment isn't very well equipped. . Until my current employment.

Back then, it was fully stocked up of milo, nescafe gold coffee glass bar, sugar, creamer, green tea sachets, chinese tea sachets, English tea sachets, and even custom made coffee powder.

Until now.. current pantry is only filled up with... HOT WATER. Nothing else.

Well, enjoy while it lasted.

Recharge... 충전을 필요해

8th May 2014, Thursday

I need a book. And my coffee. Good short half an hour recharge. Tomorrow is friday!!!!! YES. I'm going to have another weekend getaway!

A good lunch to keep working

Just keep working on. My good-yet-not-so-good-in-the-end lunch at Astons. DX

I wanna eat a good pasta.

Asset audit check

5th May 2014, Monday

I am really just looking forward for the physical inventory asset audit check to end soon. I don't want to write awful expressions on my pretty blog :-:

They say one will get stronger after overcoming certain obstacle. After overcoming it, it will seem nothing afterall.

Korean language graduation trip video in June 2013

Hehe, I made this video when we graduated from Yonsei language institute in Sept 2013. We went for our graduation trip during the beginning of the semester and it was really confusing why they would want to plan it this way. Then it dawned on us that students might actually fail the level, thus it would not be that enjoyable for everyone if its planned at the end of the semester. So its kind of better to plan it like two or three weeks when the semester starts.

There we went to Dong hae on the first day and subsequently went to Mt seorak on the second day. I was just only taking pictures here and there. Then one classmate was taking videos and said she liked to take videos as it captures moments. Then i just commented that if she is willing to take videos, I would be willing to convert into a video at the end of the semester and we all shall watch it on our graduation day together. And I really never expected this comment of mine would crystallize. To be honest, its actually easy to just make it say say. But to say it out somehow, deep inside me I kind of know that I am probably capable of doing it. And I just want to challenge myself. Furthermore I do not want to regret my life when I know I can do it. So I really went ahead with the project.

Way towards the end, and when everyone were notified that they had passed the exams and were eligible for graduation, I started to ask for videos from Jessica. I spent about three days creating the video, and made myself so busy. Staying overnight at Yonsei Library, and then arranging for the venue; omg I was really so tired. There were regrets here and there, like how I didn't manage well, I wanted my family and my friends Karen and her friend to view the video together. Alas, I sent them away in a rush. But oh wells, I am already so grateful that my father and my brother were able to come to Korea last minute. It was also last minute that they could come, and they were also pondering whether to come.I saw scoot promos that it was cheap to fly over on that morning, and OMG they really flew over. Guess sometimes we don't really want regrets to happen, plus I rented that hanbok, I would definitely want to share the joy with my family members. I just couldn't ask for more. I'm already feeling so happy that they are here. There is no such thing as perfectness. Even a wedding, you can't expect everything to go perfectly well. Every bride would have their own small regrets despite of how perfect they want it to be.

I.. am just proud that I did it. I made it through. Enjoy the graduation movie that I had done for my level six class. XD

A birthday video I did for Rie, my japanese friend

Lovely memories in South Korea when I was there for Korean language education in year 2013. I created this video just one day before her birthday. I recorded well wishes from her friends the day before and I spent one night to configure the whole video clip using windows movie maker. Relatively easy to create the movie clip, but just have to be careful when we publish the output.

Short 24 secs video clip using snap movie (road movie) app - android

I had been very intrigued ever since my japanese friend had introduced to me the short 24 secs video clip. First created by Honda, whose initial purpose was to let people film road trips, it evolve into millions of people in Japan and Korea filming whatever their want. It became a very creative app as it is very easy to use and the effects were very creative.

Unfortunately I only got to know it when my exchange trip was nearing the end. I thought I would be able to download it back in Singapore, alas it was only downloadable in Japan and Korea, via Apple Korea. Tried my means to download it but it was unavailable in Singapore, or rather anywhere outside Korea and Japan. Not sure if its ok to download in the states.

Luckily over at android, another app was created. Its called Snap movie. Similar effects, but perhaps not as original and pretty as the Road Movie app that Honda has created. But I'm satisfied. Because no matter what I am able to create these 24 secs really nice clips!! Its short, yet just the right amount of time that we need so we won't feel bored after that. I've made two this morning. The one with Wen Hua's baby is shoooo cuteeeeeee. XD Enjoy. =D

CAN cafe @ Yaley House, Serangoon, sg

4th May 2014, Saturday

Today I went to find Chenyan. Before that I went to wheelock place to collect my ipad mini from the service centre. Gosh I didn't use much and it spoilt! Luckily it spoilt before the warranty period is gonna expire (expiring in a month's time oops) so I was able to exchange for another new one. Hopefully it won't spoil again. I will protect youuuuuuuu my dear ipad mini.

So off I went to find her in serangoon. Then I notice the cafe which is situated on the first storey.. So I asked her shall we have coffee at her house downstairs?

Food is not fantastic. So don't expect. But its homely cooked food. Quite okay. However the atmosphere is. Awwwwesomeeeee. I had a lovely afternoon there. Very homely atmosphere. And its so comfortable!! I have definitely locked up this place as my future studying place.

Beer is cheap!!! Good to chill out. Their sofas are so comfortable. I totally let lose myself there. Haha no etiquette anymore. Its like home! Vintage. The bosses are so nice! To be honest, if you are going for food, its not the place. I have to emphasise its the atmosphere.

Good food cafes you wanna chill there but they are rather noisy. You can't stay there for long.

I'm already dying to head there for the second time. Omg I can just read a book there. We must go there and study together chenyan!! I found a good cafe to study or chill finally!! ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

In comparison when I reached yishun and saw so many students mugging their heads away in the awfully noisy starbucks, I thought of CAN cafe, and I'm in bliss. I won't have worries when I need to mug anymore! !! Chenyan u lucky girl!! Get to have such a good cafe in close proximity; house downstairs..... *@/@$@#$6!*$ ._.

A cuppa coffee bean

T.g.i.f.

Finally. A space to chill during lunch. cappuccinos time. 

I really love coffee bean's coffees. 

Love their cappucchinos.

Artistry cafe @ Bugis

1st May 2014, Thursday

Today is Labour day! Met up with Melissa dearie to have brunch and celebrate her belated birthday.

A red velvet piece of cake.

Healthy seeds - Chia seeds?

2nd May 2014, Friday

Today is a friday!! Its actually a day to go out but I'm heading back home to rest.

I tried chia seeds! Bought apple juice and poured the seeds in. Not bad.

But just dont eat the black seeds cos they kind of gives the foul oil taste in your mouth. Hehe.

Post pictures of Yoga Retreat @ Bintan

18th Apr to 20th Apr 2014, Fri to Sun

Let pictures do the talking!